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The Myth
of Quality Time -- Robert Evans, Ed.D.
One of
the great myths of parenting is Quality Time,
the idea that childrearing can be handled in
short doses of positive interaction. We
may be too busy to spend much time with our children,
so this theory goes, but it’s alright if
that time is full of high quality contact. Unfortunately,
this rarely works, in good part because children,
by their very nature, provoke large quantities
of low quality time.
Helping Students Cope with
A Tragic Death -- Robert Evans, Ed.D.
The suicide of a student reverberates throughout a community. People feel shock and disbelief, as well as concern for the student’s family and friends. Adults want to be helpful to students but often have trouble themselves understanding how such a thing could happen. They may find themselves reminded of major losses in their own lives or suddenly concerned about what might happen to other students, especially when there have been other suicides in the recent past. People worry about saying too much or too little, about not having enough information, about saying the wrong thing. Though there is no perfect way to respond, there are some guidelines that can often make a positive difference in talking with young people.
Professional Mediation: A
Good Choice -- Rebecca Cohan, LICSW
No one goes through life without
conflict. Tensions,
disagreements, and disputes often occur simply
because people have natural differences. We
differ in our likes and dislikes, in our personalities,
in our beliefs, and in the way we approach problems. Many
accept that conflict is inevitable, but don’t
always realize that it can have a positive outcome.
Just Say No? -- Robert
Evans, Ed.D.
Years ago, during my training,
I attended a seminar that met evenings at the
home of an eminent Boston psychologist. Arriving early one
night, I heard children shouting distantly above
me, up in the third floor. Then suddenly
I heard the eminent psychologist’s voice
boom out, “Because your goddam father says
so, that’s why!”
Internet Safety Priorities -- By Mark J. Kline,
Psy.D.
Internet
Socializing: Tips for Elementary School Parents
By Mark J. Kline, Psy.D.
Increasing numbers of elementary
school-aged children are socializing on the internet. Using
instant messaging, email, chat rooms, and
other techniques, they can communicate with school
friends as well as strangers. Unfortunately, parents
are often unaware of this “virtual social
life” until trouble begins.
Questions
to Ask About Internet Security Software
By Mark J Kline, Psy.D.
Internet screening software
is not the whole answer to managing internet
use in your family. It is no substitute
for parental attention and oversight, communication,
clear rules, limits and expectations, and
knowing your child well. However, internet
filtering or monitoring software can be
a useful component of your family’s
internet use plan, and by some reports,
over a third of all families use it.
In the Wake
of Crisis: Taking Care of Caretakers
Robert
Evans, Ed.D.
Most
educators are born caretakers, and when crisis
strikes in any form they tend to concentrate
unhesitatingly and superbly on the needs of their
students. Even without formal crisis training,
and even in the face of catastrophic events like
the attack on the World Trade Center and the
Pentagon, most teachers naturally respond in
caring, sensitive ways that comfort children
and parents alike. This has surely been the case
in many thousands of schools since September
11. But going forward, the key to their continued
success will be something they are not always
so good at: attending to their own needs. To
continue good caretaking, caretakers must take
care of themselves.
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